Chat with family

I find that many Vietnamese people are very easy to converse with outsiders but have difficulty communicating within their own families. I understand part of the reason because I used to be like that. Years ago, I was an introvert and suffered from extreme social anxiety for a long time. I stayed indoors, trying to learn to communicate and make friends. I feel that Vietnamese people are very good at being their children interacting with many people from a young age. I told my father in Canada. My father blamed me that the reason I have had a fear of talking to others for many years is because I am a very handsome but a bit stunted baby, so my mother is afraid of letting me get close to others. At school, I used to hide behind a big book, or sit back down on a table at the far end of the classroom like a turtle, so the teachers and friends would forget about my existence. In the military, we call this ability "gray man's" public hiding. Fortunately, there was a turning point. John, my childhood best friend, his family was like my second family and made the biggest change to my social skills. John's home is in the center of Madoc town, where the population has since been around 1,300. Madoc is where I go to school on weekends. Lunch time and every summer I spend time at John's house like my second home. The house is an old manor, built in 1883 with many rooms, high ceilings and interesting antiques. Their house is always busy, there are always people coming to play. John has five sisters, all of them outgoing and friendly. I was willing to hide under the table whenever someone came and talked, but John always laughed at this and pulled me out and introduced it to everyone. Now I miss that world. Since the arrival of Covid, I have been preparing for the second summer, there are many days when I do not see anyone. Sometimes I have to pay attention to the way I talk to people around me to see if I am still positive or not. I don't know if there are many people like me, it is sometimes difficult to stay comfortable with some people for too long but cannot hide in a chicken coop. Although my current personality is rather outgoing, being able to easily command crowds and get on stage on comedy shows, making hundreds of people happy. But I am not always like that. During this holiday season, I spend time talking with my family in Canada as much as possible, and also practice socializing with Vietnamese people. However, there are two problems I noticed. The Vietnamese in the family today seem to talk less to each other because they are addicted to the internet and secondly, the quality of conversations of many people is quite superficial, sometimes it becomes a waste of time. I often meet young people at work. I find they rarely have quality conversations. That is, the story has special things, solving problems that are useful for the lives of both sides instead of just talking about others, other things have little to do with me. "Zombie" is the nickname the group I give to a few people who never had an in-depth or interesting discussion. They often talk about fun things they hear or see online. They keep repeating and teasing each other with visual comments, but before they can end a topic, they are interrupted by the ringing of the phone or the sound of "1, 2, 3". . In the family, too, it is difficult to have meaningful conversations if you are busy watching the phone and playing high frequency music. The frequency of music changes our brain waves and hormones. The rapid rapid rhythm of the brain waves moves faster. We cannot listen and have no quiet time to think, and the result is just scratching our heads in conversations. One culprit that breaks the cohesion of many families I think is the phone. I have seen the dangers of the phone to me over the past few years, but I still fail to stop it from taking control of my behavior. Sometimes, while at work, I can't hold back, pull out my phone and check my messages, pull down my timeline to see even if they're not that important. We are addicted to the Internet, slowly but surely. Companies design super programs to tempt your attention on the screen for as long as possible, and our brains are in the trap. In many families today, time together, many are glued to their screens. This is bad. People often work on a pattern. Young people will imitate adults. I hope one day, people will realize that Internet addiction is as dangerous as tobacco addiction. We can use and master technology, but it is absolutely impossible to get addicted. This is the most effective balance, and it takes a serious conversation about why it's only done online. This is much better and in the long run it will be beneficial to the family culture, saving us from getting caught up in going nowhere.